Teddi Mellencamp and estranged husband Edwin Arroyave didn’t want to “sugarcoat” the news of her stage 4 cancer diagnosis when telling their children. “I was upfront with them with what was going on,” Arroyave, 47, said of how they told kids Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, 5, that tumors had been found on the “RHOBH” alum’s brain .

Edwin and Teddi married in 2011 and share three kids: 12-year-old daughter Slate, 10-year-old son Cruz, and 4-year-old daughter Dove. Teddi is also a stepmom to Edwin’s 15-year-

Three months after filing for divorce, Mellencamp revealed doctors had found multiple tumors in her brain, which have since progressed to stage 4 cancer