I heard this in therapy and it stayed with me because it explained so much of my life. I have been in relationships where I was the one sitting in a therapist’s office trying to understand the pain while my partner refused to go at all. Getting them to consider therapy felt impossible, and even basic communication felt like pulling teeth. I kept trying to explain myself, to fix things, to do the work, while they avoided looking inward altogether. Therapy helped me realize that this dynamic was n